As i grow up and matures, the harsh reality of life is slowly falling into me . No doubt i'm still a young adult and below the lawful age of 21, recent happenings around me, and on me had made me consider and rethink about my actions .
One is getting a divorce, the other is married but relationship is going so weak, and another that is almost on the verge of a break up .
A sudden thought that i haven't been checkin on my husband's facebook made me did a logged in to his account . Ignored several stuffs while accepting some, i moved on to check his mail . Deleted some advertising mails and birthday reminders from Friendster . And an update from Friendster got me curious so i logged in his Friendster account too . Perhaps i was too sensitive . Went to his inbox and delete some expired mails as well as those getta-know-you mails he sent out to other girls and their replies .
Perhaps this is the way it should be, or it is meant to be, guys' way of thinking will forever not be in synchronize with those of girls' .
Guys think that girls can be bought or win over, with flowers, sweet talks and being nice to girls .
Guys think that saying a lie so that girls don't get hurt knowing the truth is okay .
Guys think that just looking at other pretty girls while with their girlfriends/wife is okay .
Of course, this doesn't apply to all guys, but nevertheless, it applies and is within most men, most hereby means greater or equals to 99% . Pardon me if my statistic is wrong, but based on experiences and recent happenings, this is what i can conclude .
Girls are only happy when they receive flowers and are treated nicely, because at the end of the story, sincerity is what they wanna see for future sake .
Girls rather get hurt knowing the truths, than to get hurt to a greater extent knowing their men lied to them . Truthful is utmost important .
Girls are sensitive, because we think about almost everything, especially during PMS . Looking at other girls whom are prettier by means she is not your everything - this is so simple .
No doubt that there'll be guys standing up objecting to those statements . One of the most common heard is to express being a gay if a guy doesn't look at pretty girls . I laughed at this, and i laughed hard . Scientific research shows that men and women have the same amount of sexual needs, only to the fact that women tends to hide them well . I read it from Discovery Channel Magazine or Reader's Digest i couldn't recall, but all i know is, if girls can give up looking at guys just because they have a partner, so can guys . Hide it well, do it secretly, as long as we girls don't catch you doing it, because believe it or not, even knowing the fact that our partners look at other pretty sexy girls, it hurts to the heart .
Some girls might think it's okay whatever the guy does, as long as he has them in his heart, they'll be contented . Well, i've been through those days as well, until the day my husband tidied his room and all those old school photographs or neoprints came out to sight . It does affect girls' heart, little or much, but still, shaken . Open minded girls wouldn't say much, but keeping it is indeed a sign that you still wanna remember that relationship or something like that . Correct me if i'm wrong, but as a girl, lady or some even address me as auntie, every tiny bit counts . And believe me, this kinda pinch hurt even more if what the men kept is a gift specially made from his ex-girlfriend or similar .
So much for girls versus guys .
All in all, relationships voice down to three main points - trust, truth and communication . Neither one should be neglected .
Still thinking about what to do tonight . . . boat quay ?
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